Eros Daily Musings and Digressions

By William Hundley. Via Unscathed Corpse.

More here (16 pictures). From FemJoy

Here I am, talking to Oprah about porn. Yay! She’s really fun to talk to. I just found the above segment with my appearance on the show via Twitter.

A little over a week ago I was delighted to be a guest on The Oprah Winfrey Show to talk about female porn consumers, and much much more. To say that I had a great time would be a massive understatement: as I wrote on my Facebook page, I’ve never been treated with such respect, and shared excitement for the subject matter. Oprah has a dream team of very passionate people who love their jobs and love who they work for — that’s obvious. They’re also funny and have a great sense of humor about everything. Recently I’ve had to deal with a lesser entity that is sex-negative; it’s amazing to contrast my experience working for and with Oprah. To say they treated me well would be an understatement. I was treasured and the subject of women and sex was explored in such an honest, unflinching way. Look closely at this show and you’ll notice that Oprah has reframed the entire conversation: we women are not ‘tolerated’ or marginalized for exploring our inhibitions, voicing our desires, or owning our sexual agency — we are embraced. The 1 in 3 consumers of adult material online — women — were finally acknowledged, and with respect for a change. And interest! We’re all checking this stuff out together, and talking to each other about it — as we have for years, starting with my old forum The Smart Girl’s Porn Club (circa 2003).

Myths and stereotypes: smashed! We live in a world where women are more sexually powerful and articulate than any other time in history because of the internet and emergent communicative technologies. Oprah’s hip to it. You’re soaking in it. And that’s really, outrageously exciting for all of us.

Like I said in last week’s column; I wonder how much sexual research has been flawed because researchers forgot the crucial ingredient of female sexual pleasure (and female sexual freedom)?

There was a *lot* of media about the episode, but my faves are here:

* What kind of woman watches porn? Three pages of my writing and research on Oprah.com.
* Oprah – Violet Blue on Porn vs. Erotica (oprah.com)
* Movieline calls me “Oprah’s mouthpiece” (and I loved it, movieline.com)

Images by my dear longtime friend Scott Beale / Laughing Squid (laughingsquid.com), who also shot the bio photo of me for Oprah Magazine back in 2007:

Image by Noah Kalina.

The iPhone’s app store has long had a reputation for prudery. So it doesn’t surprise me to see the Android pulling ahead with an open model that shows it has the market awareness to truly survive in the wild, allowing room for things like the just-announced, adults-only app store for the Android. I’d already poked around the store and found some cool grownup apps for my Moment, and I’m excited to see where this is headed. iPhone’s app store has so far failed the ‘make your business model sex positive’ test, which would make it able to withstand the changing and growing face of adult consumers (i.e. that 1 in 3 people seeking adult content is female), and I’m excited to see what’s next for my cool new phone. If only people would stop offering to write me apps for the iPhone and I’d get offers from Android developers… I worry that the iPhone app store would not treat my topic with fairness or respect.

Here’s PC Week with more on the story (beware ANNOYING rollover ads):

Seattle-based MiKandi LLC has launched the first adults-only mobile applications store for Google Android smartphones. The store is already available for installation from the MiKandi Web site for compatible mobiles, and will offer a range of both free and paid-for adults-only applications.

According to MiKandi, the company was founded by seven people, including former employees of Microsoft, T-Mobile and Comverse, and adult industry veterans. One of MiKandi LLC’s founders, Shane Isbell, began running an alternative Android applications store — SlideME — before the the Android Marketplace’s official launch.

“[MiKandi LLC] wanted to find a niche that was not currently being served and adult applications were at the top of the list,” Jennifer McEwen, one of the company’s founders, told PC World. “There are no other adult app stores out there to meet this need of users and developers. So we entered the market with MiKandi to provide value to the mobile application ecosystem.”

The app store is very much under development. Though you can install the store itself, it only offers a single app: a “multi-speed vibrator system” called “Dildroid.”

The MiKandi developer portal is currently invite-only, but MiKandi LLC is about to launch an e-mail campaign aiming to recruit app developers. According to the MiKandi Twitter profile, the response from developers and end users alike has been overwhelming. (…read more, pcworld.idg.com.a)

In the iPhone app store, nothing remotely adult is officially allowed, unless you count the many fairly misogynistic bikini apps, versus the iPhone app store’s immediate response to pull a male pinup app (which showed no nudity, while featuring some strategically torn jeans here and there). Gay apps without the sex? No problem. (Though don’t tell them Grindr is a hookup app.) TapGay? Not so much.

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This post picks up where this one left off…

We chatted for a while. The energy was building and it felt good. He was caressing her neck and breasts.  My exploration led me to the warmth of her pussy through her panties. She was electric. I could tell she enjoyed having two MEN surround her. It wasn’t long before Beowulf led the party upstairs.

I refilled my drink and ascended the stairs into the bedroom. She was waiting to greet me at the end of the bed.  Beowulf was standing in the background proudly looking on. The lights were dim. I kissed her deeply , my hands bookending her face.  She reached for my cock and I stopped her…."Hang on…I want a picture."  I backed her up, laid her down and turned up the lights.  I took this picture and sent it to TBK with the caption…"Getting ready to dive in."

The ice in my glass clinked as I set it down. I kissed her thighs as I spread them apart. I slid her panties aside and laid my tongue on her engorged clit. She was wet with anticipation, just how I like it. My fingers were now inside of her and I could feel her squeezing them. 

She jumped up as if she didn't want to cum yet and told me she wanted to suck my cock. I lay down and she unzipped my pants. She took my cock in her greedy mouth. I could tell she loves sucking dick. Beowulf moved in closer. He slid his dick into her from behind as she tended to my cock. I gathered up her hair into a nice handle on the back of her head. 

"You have been wanting this for a while now, haven't you?” I said. She agreed with a muffled "Mmm Hmm."

I forced her down onto my cock a few times and could tell she enjoyed it. Beowulf was slamming her now.     

"You like sucking his cock don't you?” he asked.

She was surrounded and penetrated. 

"You want my cum don't you?” I sneered. Another muffled affirmation.

"Then take it!" I exploded down her throat as I held her head tightly.

Her lips around the base, she flinched a few times and I let her up. She took a deep breath of relief, but that relief was short lived.

Beowulf spun her around and started eating her pussy. I took to her beautiful tits and devoured them. She was pinned to the bed by us. She fell limp…silent…she was holding a pillow over her face….I could feel her muscles start to tense….her whole body pushed up and she fucking exploded!!!!!  It was then that I realized the pillow was not there to control her breath, it was to keep the cops from showing up. Her orgasmic cry was absolutely unbelievable!!!!

That is what I was there for and it was perfect.

Beowulf let her rest for a minute then popped his dick into her mouth. I watched for a few minutes. He switched back and forth from her mouth to her pussy, throwing her around like a little rag doll. She was loving it. After a moment, she was back to blowing him. I slid my fingers into her pussy and asked if she had ever cum with a dick in her mouth before. She hadn't. 

"Well it's about time. Just don't stop sucking his cock."  I fingered her and tweaked her clit. She was ramping up.  "That's it,  just don't stop suckin' whatever you do." She obliged, this time cumming less intensely than the last round. 

"Good," Beowulf said, "Now take my load." She did with absolute lust in her eyes.

We hung out for a couple more hours and had a great time. I took my leave, pleasured and pleased.
 

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