Eros Daily Musings and Digressions

Do you remember the era of the dial-up computer bulletin board systems (BBS)? Before there was an internet for civilians? Upload ratios and download ratios, and the dirty pictures would draw themselves on your screen line-by-line at 1200 baud? The pictures that circulated were often branded with the phone numbers of the biggest BBS. I [...]

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Though the autumn days are growing short and cold, I am resisting the temptation to slap on my thermal underwear and watch Mad Men reruns. Instead, I am actively resisting the cold weather doldrums by wearing lovely lingerie under my layers. In the summer, sex is everywhere, oozing into the storm drains and breathing hot steam on the sidewalk (or is it just me?) But my sexuality takes on a different quality in the fall and winter. Staying sexy is about survival, about finding a time when I can forget the frost and the freeze and just remember: Touch. Heat.

I’m single this season, so I’ve had occasion to really evaluate what my underwear drawer means to me. I remember reading once, in some ladies’ magazine: French women get dressed from the inside out, and that is their key to eternal sex appeal. The cynic in me might question whether the rest of us dress outside in, throwing on a coat and scarf before our bras. However, the romantic in me can only nod in understanding.

I’ve had many opportunities this week to talk to my friends about lingerie (another amazing Babeland job perk!) and the consensus has been: what’s the point? I’ve heard a lot of people complain about the very little airtime lingerie gets. It’s beautiful and sexy, but then it’s on the floor in no time. And pondering this conundrum like some half-rate Carrie Bradshaw, I couldn’t help but wonder, what about lingerie for lingerie’s sake? I peeled my philosopher self off the armchair and popped into some Agent Provocateur, one of my favorite purveyors of lace and satin. And in their competent hands, I selected a piece that had that je ne sais quoi.

Now, I can celebrate my cold weather erotic self in private, hidden away under my thermal this and wicking that. The flipside is that, if I do get a reveal moment this winter, I am ready to satisfy any curiosity. And when I get home after a long and wonderful day working at Babeland, I can come home and see what I look like under that holiday sweater. It is a next-to-my-skin reminder of just how sexy I am, and how much I appreciate the body that takes me through the seasons with grace and good health.

So tell me, readers, what makes you feel hot in cold weather? Is it comfy cotton, slippery silk, or nothing at all?

Did you know? Babeland now sells panties in three different styles to go only with that sexy new vibe or warming lube for the wintery season! Available in pin-up style, peekaboo back and peepshow crotchless. They’re the perfect way to bring that extra special addition into your winterwear!

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Dear Slut,

I’m at a place where I’m trying to figure out my desire. Is there something like a step in between monogamy and non-monogamy? I tried both in the past (mono and poly), and both have advantages and disadvantages.

I like the freedom in poly, because it allows me to be more myself. Although I wonder if I need that freedom… I discovered some shallow drives behind that, so maybe I’m past that phase? I like that poly challenges me to grow as human being. I enjoy the intimacy and the different connections you can have with different people.

Although I don’t like that it is so much work! In mono I have to say I like the easiness that goes with it… you just “belong” to each other; the rules and expectations are firm. I also like the intimacy in mono, which is of a different quality than in poly.

I agree strongly with Beast’s belief of being honest with yourself and going for what you truly want, in relationships, and more so, in ALL aspects of your life. Not an easy thing to put into practice, by any means, but to walk down a path with strength and conviction, one should first know which path IS the right one for you. And there lies my question: how do you know?

~In Limbo

Dear In Limbo…

Note: this question was asked in response to Beast's awesome post about Tiger Woods Syndrome.

At first glance, I thought your question was akin to the concept of being "a little bit pregnant" - either you are or you aren't monogamous.

But of course like everything else, there is a spectrum. (Have you ever heard of that Hollywood Free Pass Rule married monogamous couples often have, where they're allowed one celebrity they can fuck if given the opportunity? Cuz they know deep down they harbor desires like that, and they figure it's a safe game to play because it would never come true in a million years? OMG wouldn't it be awesome if someone really got the chance to exercise their free pass? That would make a great TV show, talk about drama!)

On one end of the spectrum is monogamy - only being with one other partner. The other end is constantly being with multiple partners. (Where does serial monogamy fit on the spectrum?) But what about being monogamous for the most part, but realizing that every once in a while over the years, you will encounter someone you want to be with and not restricting yourself?

I love my fluid relationship as it is right now, where we're dipping in and out of casual and more intimate encounters with friends and lovers on a pretty regular basis, but I could easily be in a relationship that was 90% monogamous, meaning I only rarely got with another person. I could NOT be in a relationship that was 100% monogamous. I need to exercise my right to be human.

There are rules you could add on to your traditional relationship that would give you some wiggle room - you can only be with someone of the same gender, or only once in a blue moon, or your partner must be present, or only when you're out of town on business, or only if you're in Amsterdam, or only when your partner is in a coma - whatever setup works that doesn't trigger mass destruction and the end of the world.

Are any of you readers monogamous-but-not? Is it working?

Via Fleshbot.

Via Unspeakable Axe.

Guardian:

There’s so much about the Christian world that’s embarrassing for moderate Christians, from creationist theme parks to the worship song which goes: Jesus take me as I am/I can come no other way/Take me deeper into you/Make my flesh life melt away”.

But most embarrassing of all has to be Christian teaching about sex. So much of it, by inherent tendency its original sin seems paranoid, repressive, repressed, disproportionate, harmful, world-denying and anti-human.

The celibate reformed sexaholic and father of western Christianity, St Augustine, among other more widely quoted doctrines, taught that before the fall Adam could move his trouserless trouser-snake like a finger. This was not so much for its comedy value as for the sake of separating sexual mechanics from appetite allowing the horn without the horniness.

The problem of course is that however horrified you are by sex you can’t abolish it without presenting your religion with a serious demographic challenge. So Augustine and his fellow fathers made passion the evil irrational, unruly, hedonistic, bestial and drew a line between that and the unavoidable zoology of procreation. So to be completely free from sin, as God intended, Adam’s sex would have to be passionless, controlled, rational and utilitarian…

OK, I’m going to say this girl is a little bit unclear on the whole whip concept and what it is for. But she’s got potential; we could maybe let her hang around anyway?

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