Eros Daily Musings and Digressions

• The Health of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender People: Building a Foundation for Better Understanding – Institute of Medicine – To help assess the state of the science, the National Institutes of Health (NIH) asked the IOM to evaluate current knowledge of the health status of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender populations; to identify research gaps and opportunities; and to outline a research agenda to help NIH focus its research in this area. The IOM finds that to advance understanding of the health needs of all LGBT individuals, researchers need more data about the demographics of these populations, improved methods for collecting and analyzing data, and an increased participation of sexual and gender minorities in research. Building a more solid evidence base for LGBT health concerns will not only benefit LGBT individuals, but also add to the repository of health information we have that pertains to all people.
• Walk of Shame? Baby, I Strut | Sex and the 405 – In the past months I have spoken with people at Playboy and Fleshbot about properties like that of NakedCity, tossing around the incredible paradox posed by sex on the internet. The masses can’t resist sex. Any story about sex on any publication goes through the roof with views. Sex sells, goes the tired saying, and when you look at it this way, it does…But make a property devoted solely to sex and you find yourself in the precarious situation of being completely unable to show serious financial reward for your efforts. Sex, apparently, sells everything except advertising space and any hope of a decent search ranking.
• Bringing up the rear – Tracy Clark-Flory – Salon.com – For my generation, the back-door option is like what the blow job was to the generation that came before — just a fun new taboo waiting to be broken. The phenomenon of heterosexual guys participating in all sorts of arse play is something different, though. I’ve seen female-on-male strap-on sex go from the sort of thing tittered about in women’s magazines to hearing a male friend once drunkenly blurting out in a bar that he loved it.
• How a sex rebel was born – Sex News, Sex Talk – Salon.com – She may have traded in her punk rock leathers for one of the least erotic materials on the planet, but her fierce rhetoric about sexual freedom and pleasure has stayed the same.
• Anne Roiphe: Sex, Art and Booze Back When Writers Broke Taboos | The New York Observer -
• Why is this so hard? Google, Facebook and adult retailing | Econsultancy – My day-to-day marketing activities are somewhat different from yours. Instead of optimising campaigns and formulating strategy, with every day comes a new onslaught of ad disapproval, a rumour of a change in policy, a decline from an ad network or long email conversation with a boilerplate-spouting representative…In this article I’ll give you an insight into the surprisingly not-salacious world of Adult Retailing in relation to the internet’s biggest players: Google and Facebook.
• Glee – Sexy – Sex Education on TV – The TV show Glee is great fun, but I feel like it has consistently done a terrible job talking about sex. Not only has it played young people’s sexual ignorance for humor value – a main character thought he got his girlfriend pregnant by being in a hot tub with her for much of the first season- it has allowed these misconceptions to stand as truth for months at a time.

Fleshbot

We’ve gotten beyond the point of trying to understand the logic behind topless protest group FEMEN’s actions (assuming we ever were at that point). Now, we’re just…well, we’re just happy to unquestioningly admire the cupcakes on their boobs…

More here (12 pictures). From My Fetish Diary

I used to date a guy who took Propecia every day for years because he was terrified of balding.

I think he was worried he'd end up like Larry David.He was already cultivating the really annoying personality. I wish he could have taken a pill for THAT!

He'd chide me for wearing makeup, for the shoes I wore, and was against vanity and materialism, so he was pretty embarrassed that he felt so compelled to take a pill to prevent balding. I'm glad he was aware of his hypocrisy - most people are not.

Luckily, he didn't have any of the nasty side effects like current studies are trumpeting - erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, low libido. For the sake of his wife, I hope he's still side-effect free, as they say the issues can be long-term.

Did you know there's a website and hair loss radio show called The Bald Truth? It features stories such as:

Accidently Reversing Baldness in Mice Might Lead To Cure for Humans

Pick Up Artist Wayne Elise Advises Hair Loss Sufferers On Meeting Women

Beyond Facebook: The Future of Social Networking For The Hair Transplant Community Is Here

Apparently, there are a lot of men out there who are freaking out about their receding hairline. Is this as big an issue for men as breast size is for women?

The show's host is Spencer David Kobren. He "is the Founder and President of the American Hair Loss Association, the nation’s foremost 501 c 3, non-profit organization dedicated to educating the public, healthcare professionals, and the mainstream media about the emotionally devastating, and life altering disease of hair loss."

Life altering, yes, but a disease? I just don't see what the big deal is about balding. I said that to my friend whose hair is thinning, and his reponse was, "OK Kendra, close your eyes. Now imagine YOU ARE BALDING."

I have to admit the thought made me uncomfortable, but for men it's so common! To me, it's a badge of virility - just look at those male hormones raging! I like all the different ways balding can go down - the bald spot, the uniform recession, and one of my favorites, the sides receding, leaving a manly arrow in the center of his head. You know where I like to see that arrow point!

According to Medem Medical Library's website, male pattern baldness (MPB) affects roughly 40 million men in the United States. Approximately 25 percent of men begin balding by age 20; two-thirds begin balding by age 60. There is a 4 in 7 chance of getting the baldness gene.

I asked my friends what they thought of balding. Here were some responses on Twitter:

@_ten_10 _Ten_ I seem to have a ridiculous affinity for bald daddy-types with goaties

@xcharmxschoolx I like it when balding guys either keep it really short or shave it all off.Takes balls2 go bald. I prefer bald2 thinning compromise

@SIRSteveSTL I think balding might be different for a gay man vs. a straight man. I've been balding for years, shaved 5-6 yrs back.

I think Sir Steve has a point. Why is that? This past year, I witnessed three people tease Beast for his receding hairline. They were all straight male friends of his. Were they trying to make him feel self-conscious? Were they attempting to relate to him? Was it a form of male bonding?

Here were some comments on facebook:

"Personally, I don't care about balding. If someone's attractive, they're attractive!"

"I find men that are balding extremely attractive."

"I think the most important thing is to not fight it. If a guy embraces it, i think it can be very sexy. I especially like younger men (20's) who are loosing their hair and not ashamed of it. I find the honesty sexy."

"Yes, I am. No, it doesn't matter to the women in my life. It has no effect whatsoever on the pleasure I can give them."

"Yes I am and no it does not bother me! I have embraced my balding and I feel better about how I look now than at any other time in my life."

What's your take? Are you balding? Does it bother you? Do women care about balding? Do gay men? Where is all the insecurity coming from?

This is a visual of what my friend Capn Marrrk thinks about it. Being bald makes it easy to duct tape horns to your head, so nyyyyyah!

He's awesome like that.

When you find a leprechaun about to spank a fairy, you know you’ve wandered into Wolfie country: See Also:Dave Wolfe and WolfieToonsTinkerbelle Spanking ReduxSpankable Fairy BookplateSpanking TinkerbelleThe Spanking Fairy

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Romance novels have always tended to be a good source for published spankings, and this excerpt from Diana Ridley’s All My World, published in the 1940s, is a prime example: She rose to her feet and threw the glass straight at this head. Luckily the glass itself missed him by a mere fraction of an [...]

This is why it never pays to piss off a good man who wears a sword belt: He sighed and stood up, slapping the belt lightly against his thigh. “Well, then,” he said. “Best get on wi’ it. You’ve done considerable damage by crossing my orders, and I’m going to punish you for it, Claire. [...]

Lenny Waller, Owner of the Hellfire Club, at Cinekink's screening of Michele Capozzi's "Pornology."

Lolita Wolf and Lenny Waller, Barbara Nitke's Smooth Operator Opening

Although I moved to Manhattan in the 1980′s, I never mustered up the courage to visit the Hellfire Club. I later got to meet him when Cinekink screened Michele Capozzi’s Pornology. Lenny was a pillar of the leather community and organized the annual AIDS Candlelight Vigil.

Lolita Wolf’s post

Age:

37

Website:

Recon.com/BusterSTL and Fetlife.com/users/770238

Orientation:

Gay / GayFlexible

Relationship Status:

Partnered to a Nilla, Owned by Loki MadMonk

Favorite physical feature on yourself:

I have two of them.  My favorite is my Handlebeard.  I have always struggled to grow a beard I liked.  For some reason, I recently let my chin grow out a longer beard which had become a handle for others to grab and use to move me and control me.  It’s really alot of fun!  I shave my head, so I don’t have hair to grab or pull.  With my Handlebeard, I have a really fun tool for play partners to enjoy! 

My second favorite feature is really something that other people like more than I do.  My nips tend to stick out all the time.  They’re really easy to grab and work.  Doms who like to work nips on a guy find mine to be hours and hours of fun.  Of course, the growling and thrashing about probably encourage a bit of that too!

Tattoos/piercings:

I’ve got two matching tats, one on each shoulder.  The Symbols have meaning to me and I will explain them to anyone who asks.  I went with colorful tattoos rather than plain.  I am planning two more—an Egyptian eagle on my back, and a Minotaur (my new fetish) somewhere….  Recently I pierced my septum.  I can’t wait to be able to put a bull ring in my nose!  Yay, more handles!!!

Are you a tits, ass, pussy, etc. man?

I am a Tactile man.  I tend to go by the feel of the other guy.  Don’t get me wrong.  I certainly have a thing for a strong back, or a furry chest, but I’m far less motivated by visuals and much more motivated by what I feel, smell, and hear.  More often than not, I’ll have my eyes closed in a scene.  If possible, I’d prefer a blindfold.  It’s amazing how closely you can connect with someone without your eyes getting in the way.

Are you cut or uncut?

Cutish…  I have a good amount of foreskin.  Thank God those Air Force doctors weren’t on their A game….  I would have preferred to be uncut, but I’ll settle for halfway.  My little bishop in a turtleneck and I are good friends.

Charity you support:

Up until recently, I was a member of the Show Me Bears and worked to support their AIDS related charities (I’m clean).  I only recently left.  Barring those, I support animal rescues.  Both of my pups are rescues and they’re two of the best things in my life!  I’d easily put myself in danger to rescue a dog.  Man’s best friend has a best friend in me!

What game did you like playing as a kid?

I loved hide and go seek, capture the flag, etc.  Loved contact sports too.  Wrestled other guys privately for fun since I was 18.  It’s a really fun and widespread fetish that not alot of folks know about.

When was the last time you cried?

Just the other day.  I have a soft heart.  I hate seeing people in pain.  Buster is the kind of guy you can call when you need something—a ride, help moving, a person to talk to.  When I see people hurting or in need, my heart goes out to them.  I have a friend who’s hurting now, and I have a hard time understanding what all he’s experiencing.  That’s when I feel helpless.  It’s a hard thing to accept when you know you’re strong enough to lift or move a mountain, but you can’t hold someone close enough to make their pain go away. 

What do you want to learn/add to what you already know?

SO MUCH.  Fetish wise, I used to be a little skittish.  I was one of those guys with a long list of “no’s.”  Now, I’ve realized that there’s a huge world out there of things that I have yet to even try.  My outlook is vastly different in that sense.  For instance, I am not a Furry by any stretch.  I am far too tactile to want to cover myself in the head to toe costume.  At Panda, I saw someone in a partial costume doing pony play.  The costume inspired me.  I didn’t want to be a pony, so I ended up ordering a partial minotaur costume!  I’m really excited about it!  (imagine a captive minotaur getting flogged).  Afterward, the Lady he was working with worked with me to help me find an inner bull!  I ended up doing something similar to pony play, but as a bull!  I never imagined I’d be doing that!  Learning new things like this makes the fetish world a never-ending adventure of possibilities!  Exploration over fear.

What is one of the bravest things you have ever done?

Well……  I’m actually kinda shy…  I suppose the bravest thing I ever did was to write my name and number on a card and give it to a waiter at PI who I thought was good looking and who I thought might have been checking me out.  I don’t ever initiate things like that.  I was scared as hell that he’d make a scene and I’d be asked to leave.  Didn’t happen…  Course, he never called, but….

Special skill/talent, what are you really good at (non-sexual):

I’m a trained pro wrestler. I don’t do the crap you see on the WWE, though.  I do the stuff you used to see in the 60’s 70’s and 80’s. The good old classic wrestling. I wrestle for a show in Wood River Illinois once a month. Just something I do for fun. 

Special skill/talent, what are you really good at (sexual):

I don’t know that I’d good at it, but seems like I’m getting a reputation for sounds that I make when I am in a scene. I tend to growl, purr, moan, hiss, etc. depending on the feeling or the action.  As people observe, I notice they tend to mention it a lot more now. 

How old were you when you lost your virginity?

I don’t remember, but I was kind of a prude when I was young. My brother had his first kid at 17, so I was pretty scared I’d end up like him. Turns out, that wasn’t in the cards. 

What are your masturbation habits? How often? Where? Props?

Well, if left to my own devices, about three times a day (slowing down in my old age).  Usually at home in front of the computer and TV at the same time.  However, if I get a good scene in, I’m usually good for a day or two.

The last time you had sex, and with whom:

Had sex or played?  Played with Loki after Pandemonium. Had sex with partner a week ago.

What type of person are you into?

Physically, average to bears.  Mentally, mature over immature.  Dominant guys.  Will play with couples or even dominant gals—depends on the scene.

What do you fantasize about? What's your fetish? What turns you on?

Newest one is Bull play.  Love tactile and impact play, chains, predicament bondage, wrestling, TT, and CBT. (titty torture, cock n ball torture)

What was one of the hottest moments of your life?

My birthday party this year.  My friends surprised me with a takedown and a team domination scene.  I had several doms and a few fellow subs, both straight and gay all participating in a scene simply because it was my birthday and they loved me, though I think that having been recently released by a bad dom had something to do with it.  I was chased down, tackled, restrained, chained to a bench, and worked over for close to 2 hours by several men.  I was waxed, beaten, iced, foot tortured, flogged, gagged, ballbusted, needled, mindfucked, nipple twisted, slapped, impacted, and partially waterboarded nearly nonstop, forcing me into a deep subspace.  I’d honestly say it was the fantasy of many subs.  I cannot thank these men enough.  The experience was truly a once in a lifetime event.  Afterward, they took turns signing their handiwork.  It was, by far, the hottest thing I had ever done…

What would you do at an orgy?

Stare openmouthed at what everyone was doing and hope that someone would grab me and make me take part.  I doubt very much if I would jump in without ..  “encouragement.”

Why do you think I chose you for YATBK?

I’m really surprised and honored you did.  I didn’t think of myself as a stand out kind of person, so getting noticed and subsequently asked for this honor came as a bit of a shock.  If I had to guess, I’d say that it was because of the audience I had when I was in Tyger’s biting demo.  I was vocal, and I remember that people reacted to those noises with a mix of amusement and delight.  Whatever the reason, thanks!  This was a pleasure!

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