Eros Daily Musings and Digressions

More here (17 pictures). From FemJoy

NYpost:

Among their more surprising findings: Straight men enjoy a wider variety of erotica than imagined, including sites devoted to elderly women and transsexuals. Foot fetishes arent a deviance; men are evolutionarily wired to look for small feet, which are a sign of high estrogen production, which itself is a sign of fertility. Gay men and straight men have nearly identical brains, and their favorite body parts, in order of preference, line up exactly: chests, buttocks, feet. Straight men prefer heavy women to thin ones. Straight women enjoy reading about and watching romances between two men its not about the sex, which is downplayed, but the emotion, which is the focus. (The largest audience for Brokeback Mountain, says the book, was straight women.) Straight men have a fascination with other mens penises, which may be conscious or unconscious…

quote [A popular fashion in indie gaming is the graphical style of the Sinclair Spectrum computer (enormously popular in the UK in the early 1980s and sold in the US as the Timex Sinclair), whose peculiar limitations forced a certain discipline on programmers and artists. Jonathan Whiting's Stalwart, out this week, has all the qualities of a Spectrum classic: twitchy, near-impossible gameplay, clashing bright-on-black colors, and a pounding chippy soundtrack. For a less frenetic (and less frustrating) experience with the same aesthetic, try Locomalito's L'Abbaye des Morts, a platformer with a delicious historical twist].
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In just about every one of our workshops, we have a communication section. I know, I know, when people sign up for the blow job class, they think it will be all licking a banana and deep throat tips. But the thing is, I can teach you 20 amazing new things to do with you mouth and hands (and boobs, and thighs and butt and…) BUT your partner may only really like 4 of them, and maybe think 2 are okay and just hate the rest. Well how do you find out which tips and techniques tickle their fancy and which others just kinda tickle? Through COMMUNICATION.

See, our culture really puts a lot of emphasis on a quick fix. A “take this pill and it will all be better” kind of mentality. The thing is, when it comes to sex and relationships, you need to work at it more than that. There is no “quick fix” or magic pill that will make your sex life or relationship amazing. This is why, we spend a good amount of time on communication techniques in our workshops.

This Sunday in our Seattle store, we have an entire class on communication taught by Kristen Knapick, MA, LMHCA. If you have ever wished you had a better way of explaining what you truly want to your partner, or if you have ever thought you were not hearing the full story from them, this class is for you. It is a great exercise on how fully discuss your wants, fears, desires and apprehensions, among other topics.

To RSVP please call the store t 206-328-2914 or let us know you will be attending on our Facebook page.

Here is the workshop listing for more info:

Healthy Communication in Relationships
Sunday, May 01, 11:00AM, Free
In times of stress, most of us revert to the communication tactics of our childhood: we shut down, we manipulate, we yell, or any number of other gambits for control. This workshop is a chance to discover that we’re not alone in this, and there are other options that can open the gates of communication and get us closer to what we want. Through discussion, instruction, role play, and a good dose of laughter, we’ll rethink and re-imagine intimacy. All genders, orientations, and relationship dynamics welcome. Taught by Kristen Knapick, MA, LMHCA

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This is from the cover of a vintage European porn magazine, one of the ones that has text in four different languages. The title is Perverted Orgies No 1: Secret Spanking Cult:

Jimbo’s transformation fetish struck me as such a creative, playful concept – not to mention unusual - that I asked his wife/Goddess Steffadoll for her perspective. Here it is, in her own words:

"I guess I will describe the doll transformation since it’s kind of our go to thing. Most married couples call 'normal' sex missionary, yet doll transformation to us is 'normal.' I also do a bunch of other transformations, but I think doll is both of our favorite.

The first few times I was transformed, it was kind of awkward. I really didn't know or understand what he wanted to happen or how it worked at all. And at that point it was definitely all an act. He would basically tell me beforehand (like not in the sex moment- more just randomly during dinner or something) what he wanted to happen. Then, when we did go play, I would know how the scene should play out and what to do.

By now though, I kind of know the routine and can tell what he wants by his gestures or things he says during and honestly, I hold the power now as opposed to him until the moment my mind starts to go. It’s definitely gone beyond acting now. When I'm becoming his doll for him, I actually feel like it’s happening and can really imagine it.  I think it’s really a type of self hypnosis. That made all the difference. It’s sooooo hot. When it was all an act and nothing really changing in my mind, it was fun, but not quite as amazing as it is now that my mind is in it.

Here’s a an example of how a freeze/doll scene can work (Caution!  Lots of cumming ahead):

When we start, he will say 'May I please play with my doll?' or 'Will you freeze for me?'

I giggle and say something like 'you don't have any dolls' or 'what do you mean freeze?' Or sometimes, he just puts a finger on the spot where he wants the freeze to start and I start freezing from there. And then I convince my mind that this is happening. 

Somewhere around this part is where he becomes in charge for the rest of the scene. He likes the idea that I don't realize what's happening sometimes. So, I can still walk around the room like normal. Then, my legs may start getting harder to move. I'll say something like 'I think there's something wrong with my legs' and he'll say something like 'Oh? Maybe you're just tired.'

My legs get stiff and my feet start being impossible to move. I start really getting scared. I will cry or scream and try to move them with my hands. At that point he will usually come up and tease me and whisper in my ear that he is causing this and I am turning into his little doll. I am confused. I don't understand what he means.

Then, he will start playing with me, fucking me, fingering my clit and I am unable to move my legs and get away. But, part of the freeze thing is that anything that feels good feels even better. So, I enjoy the fucking very much and cum over and over.Part of the game sometimes is that every time I cum, more of my body starts to freeze. It works its way up my back to my tits and my arms then my hands.

Like I said, this is more than acting to me. I can actually feel my skin getting harder, colder, smoother. Then he likes to position me how he wants me and pose me. I still have control of my face and tell him I don't understand how I can be so scared but have so much pleasure. He tells me it’s because dolls like being played with.

Then my face starts to change. At that point he likes to make sure he's in a position where he can see my face. My lips start to get stuck. I try to talk but they keep forcing themselves into this pouty smile. At about that time what is left of my human mind starts to go. My eyes start to get bigger and go blank. All I can think or say is 'You like playing with doll?'

He responds , 'Yes, very much.'

As my lips get more and more stuck in the pouty smile and my mind goes blank I cum more. Somewhere during this face/mind change is where he cums (if he didn’t when my hands changed). But if for some reason he didn’t cum, we’ve talked about him just continuing to use me completely frozen, then he playing with me while I'm frozen, putting make up on me or playing with my hair. Then he will release me from being frozen and will watch me slowly change back in the opposite order of the freeze. We just never make it that far. Lol.

The whole thing is just so enjoyable for me. I'm his Dominant, but when we do doll play, he becomes the Top and it's very exciting. It’s like bondage with no ropes. You are helpless and can be used in whatever way your partner sees fit.

I made a cute lolita style doll dress that I wear sometimes. I actually am thinking about making another one. I really like dressing up in it. We want to make a good doll TF video sometime soon, we just need a new camera. The videos we have are kind of old and from before we had it all figured out.  We’ve talked about getting one later this summer and make a movie that we can edit and show my hair and makeup actually changing. That would be a lot of fun and would be good fap material for him later.

Thank you for letting us share our unique fetish with you. It just goes to show the joy you can find in unexcpected places!"
 

I hope to feature Jimbo & Steffadoll on my new show that will run Mon nights on iWatchRadio, stay tuned!

Nice shot by photographer Denis Popov.
(via Sex in Art)

Dildos are busting out all over here at Babeland.  Seriously.  In the past few weeks, we’ve added the Siren (curved perfectly to zero in on the G-spot), the First Mate (realistic and made from hygienic silicone, yet super-affordable), the Amor (shorter length, great curve, pronounced head, AND rainbow-colored, exclusively at Babeland!), and the Magnum (much like the Amor, but with extra length for different positions and body types).  I might even go so far as to say that there’s something for every dildo-loving (or even dildo-curious) person in this batch.  Realistic, non-realistic, curved, straight… and all made from silicone, our very favorite sex toy material.  Dildo-licious.

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The naked vulnerability of this bondage whipping posture — not to mention the frantic expression of the whippee — makes this an unusually powerful photo in my opinion: The model is Rain DeGrey at Hard Tied, and there are more photos here. See Also:Whipping Five ButtsMaking Star BegThis Girl Will CrawlThree Caned PussiesSnapping A Rubber [...]

My friend Jimbo has an unusual fetish, and he's hoping to meet other like-minded people in the St. Louis area. Does transformation turn you on? Let's let him explain…

Kendra: What is transformation fetish all about?

Jimbo: Basically, I am aroused by seeing something physically transform from one thing to another. Seeing as that's somewhat of an impossibility, there is a lot of roleplay involved.

Kendra: When did you notice this fetish kicking in? Do you remember a trigger moment?

Jimbo: I remember I was very young, 7 or 8 I believe. I was lying under the coffee table watching our big console TV. We (my family) were watching American Werewolf in London, It had just gotten to the big scene where he starts to slowly transform into a werewolf.

I remember a tingling in my stomach and I started to sweat. Then I got really excited! At that age, I had no idea what it meant! As time went on and I saw different transformation scenes in other werewolf movies and various cartoons, I started to figure it out.

Kendra: Did you play with Transformers as a kid?

Jimbo: I LOVED Transformers, I don’t think it had anything to do with my fetish though. Objects transforming never really hit my switches, I’m more into humans transforming.

Kendra: What do you think of caterpillars and tadpoles changing into butterflies and frogs?

Jimbo: I was definitely curious about it when I was younger. Since I could actually see the process of the tadpole changing into a frog I found it fascinating. I really like biology when I was in middle school. The butterfly’s transformation was hidden so I really wasn’t interested in that.

Kendra: What do you think of the Harry Potter movies? Do you wish you had a magic wand?

Jimbo: I love the Harry Potter movies! There are a few really decent Transformation scenes in that series of movies. The best being whenever they use the polyjuice potion. Do I wish I had a magic wand? If it transformed people, I think the power would be too much for me. The thought of being able to transform anyone at will would be very, very hard for me to resist.

Kendra: What do you think of gender bending?

Jimbo: I think It’s fascinating! It’s the closest my fetish can get to reality (at the moment anyway) Especially if I can see the process over time. I got to experience this myself at a recent local gathering when a bunch of girls ganged up on me and transformed me into a Barbie doll. 

I never really think about transforming myself, as I like to see someone else undergo the transformation, but being forcefully restrained and slowly transformed like that was extremely satisfying.

I think my Goddess knew this when she planned it months before hand. I have to admit the thought of taking hormones and physically transforming my body really excites me. I don’t think I would ever get a full sex change or anything but the thought of being something in between locked in an eternal process is extremely exciting to me.

Kendra: HA! And here I thought you were being tortured! How did you meet your wife?

Jimbo: I was in the middle of a divorce I didn’t want, I was extremely sad and I felt lost. A friend at work asked me to join him for some karaoke after work. Usually I don’t like to go out on work nights, but I wanted to be anywhere but home where I knew I wasn’t wanted. So I went, and it turns out my friend wasn’t there. So I sat at a table alone and sang one song,

Just as I was thinking about leaving, a guy sitting with a group at a table across the room asked me, “Are you here by yourself?” I said yes and he asked me to join his group. I walked over and introduced myself and they made sure to introduce me to this beautiful woman named Steph who was also asked to go out and be with her friends to get her out of the house.

Steph had just gotten over her divorce as well. We really hit it off and had an awesome time together. It was the first time I felt happy since the divorce started. The night ended and we went our separate ways (cue Journey song!).

Blissfully unaware I walked to my car when I heard Steph say “Hey! You want my number right?!”

I slapped my forehead and said “OH YEAH!”

Then she says “Give me your number in case you forget to call me.”

She didn’t give me a chance to forget.

She called me the next day and said “I don’t like to play games and I like to take what I want, so do you want to go on a date with me Friday?” The rest is history! (very entertaining history)

Kendra: So how exactly does it work in the bedroom?

Jimbo: Well, I'll tell Steph that I want her to be my doll, she will then slowly act out he transformation. She will slowly (the more gradual the better) start to freeze and she acts confused and afraid and unaware of whats happening to her. She will then describe to me what's happening to her in great detail. Her skin hardening, her lips get harder to move etc.

Here is a youtube video we made of Steffadoll turning into a doll.

In this video it's a little more playful and there isn't any fear involved. The only time I am ever dominant is when my fetish is involved. Steph enjoys it because she sees it as a form of mental bondage.

The transformation is not limited to a doll either, it could be anything I've transformed her into a dog, cat, pig, horse, cow, statue or even age regression or progression. It's all about the proccess of the transformation (or TF for short) not the end result. She was explaining it to some friends and said she could even turn into a table and I would like it, which made them think I want to fuck tables.

Unfortunately for me, it is a true fetish, meaning I have trouble cumming without it. which means I can go and go until Steph uses the fetish in some way, and if i'm in full swing I cum almost immediately if she uses the fetish.

I'm so fortunate to have an understanding partner - I was honestly scared to tell her about it when we met because my ex hated it and I thought I was weird.

Kendra: Was your ex vanilla? It's so nice being accepted for who you are!

Jimbo: Yes, she was extremely Christian and hated my fetish, not because it was “immoral,” but because she felt that I wasn’t happy with her and I wanted her to be someone else. She humored me at first, but as time when on my fetish had to stay in my head or I had to bargain for it (do some kind of chore for her). This went on for 10 years until she found someone else on an online game and decided she wanted a divorce.

Kendra: Do you know anyone else with a transformation fetish? Are there online communities? Can you recommend any resources online?

Jimbo: I don’t know anyone personally with this fetish but there are numerous online communities for people with this fetish. The main one being The Process Forum.

That forum consists of artists and other like minded transformation fans and is broken into various categories such as Age Progression and regression, Breast Expansion, Body Expansion, Growth, Shrinking, Transformation, Transgender, and even “Everything else” for the those kinds of TF (abbreviation for transformation) that you just can’t explain. If anything even remotely TF related happens in any kind of media, these people will know about it and bring it to light.

Kendra: What would you do if you met more people in St Louis who shared this fetish? Have parties? Discussion groups?

Jimbo: Definitely! This is such a unique fetish, and I would love to start a community of like minded people as well as figure out ways to enjoy it even more.

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Girl after photo credit: http://lessthanhuman.deviantart.com/

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