Eros Daily Musings and Digressions

This week kicks off a month filled to the brim with sex advice for students. Moving to the Big Apple for freshman year can be intimidating, and students need to know that their questions about sex (and the city) can be answered by Babeland Sex Educators. Tomorrow night at our SoHo store we are hosting a night for RAs to get in the know about the resources that Babeland can offer their  students.   Maybe you know about the importance of condoms…but do you know about the power of lube to transform your sex life? Planned Parenthood NYC’s Activist Council will also be present to talk about ways to get involved in sex ed advocacy. Throughout the month we’ll be offering students free events giving tips for oral sex, comfortable and pleasurable positions, safer sexting, and inexpensive sex toys that offer a great *bang* for your buck.  Get ready to get in the know about sex!

Thursday, September 01, 7:00PM, Free

 

 

 

 

 

 

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This post, Back to School September Events at Babeland, originally appeared on Babeland's Blog on August 31, 2011. Tweet This Post!

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Well, whipping tumble I guess. She’s getting whipped while hanging from her heels. And it looks like it hurts. See Also:Spanking Tumble Of The Day #12Spanking Tumble Of The Day #11Spanking Tumble Of The Day #10Spanking Tumble Of The Day #9Spanking Tumble Of The Day #8

Have you had had the same hairstyle for the past five years? Check out some examples of how you can make exciting new changes in your life!

These photos of David Wraith were taken about five years apart:

As you can see, he made the choice to go from ordinary, to extraordinary. It was a lifestyle change.

This pic of me:

was taken about five hours before this one:

WOW what a huge difference!

Ever since I shaved my head in May, I've enjoyed experimenting with many different looks. One day I'll be a bombshell. The next, I'll look like a mom. Or a boi. Or Chucky from Child's Play (that's what David Wraith said I looked like in my orange wig, stripey shirt and overalls costume.)

Today I'm sporting the hippie look on my way to a modeling gig, and then I will sit naked for three hours in front of a bunch of college students.. Tonight for the girl pile, I'll be in bombshell mode with thigh high stockings. Or maybe I'll go wigless - take it from me, doing an orgy in a wig is distracting - I'm always worried that it's shifting and looks silly.

Rachel W Cole mused on twitter the other day, "Wondering what percentage of women you know actually love their body?"

I replied, "I know plenty of women who celebrate their bodies! Our bodies are vehicles for pleasure! Not gonna let a poochy tummy or stretch marks slow us down!"

It's so easy for me to change my outward appearance. I know my inner beauty will shine through, no matter how dorky I look. I realize my body is temporary and subject to change. I'm happy to go with the flow.

If an extreme makeover is too much for you, then consider making a small change and see how it feels.

For instance, a jerk I was dating six years ago who was really into tattoos and piercings talked me into getting my ears pierced. He dumped me two months later, but for six years now, I've had the same small, dull silver hoops in my ears.

Then last month I had to take them out for an MRI I did to see if I was eligible for a metabolism study (I wasn't; at 39% body fat, I wasn't lean enough), and in the process, lost one of the earrings.

So then I was walking around like a sad pirate with one hoop. I had one earring to my name.

SO I went shopping with a girlfriend and found some incredibly sparkly, irridescent studs for only $17. I think they are magical.

I wish I would have replaced those dull hoops long ago. They carried some bad memories with them.

I love my sparkle ears!

 

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Copyright 2011, The Beautiful Kind

09/02/2011

8:00 PM

September 2nd event spotlights sapphic storytellers Nell Stark, Trinity Tam, Xan West, and KT Grant and their wide-ranging works of steamy erotic fiction. Join host Lori Perkins for an enthusiastic evening of arousing fiction, cool drinks, warm camaraderie and door prizes!

Happy Ending Lounge
302 Broome Street
, NYC (Pink awning says “Xie He Health”)
Phone: 
212 334-9676

Featuring:

Nell Stark is an Assistant Professor of English and the Director of the Writing Center at a college in the SUNY system. Trinity Tam is a marketing executive in the music industry and an award-winning writer/producer of film and television. They live, write, and parent a rambunctious toddler just a stone’s throw from the historic Stonewall Inn in New York City. For more information about the everafter series, visit www.everafterseries.com.

Xan West is the pseudonym of an NYC BDSM/sex educator.  Xan’s story “First Time Since”, won honorable mention for the 2008 National Leather Association’s John Preston Short Fiction Award.  Xan’s short fiction appears in Best SM Erotica Volumes 2 & 3, Best Women’s Erotica 2008 & 2009, Best Lesbian Erotica 2011 & 2012, Hurts So Good, Say Please, and Sugar and Spice.

KT Grant is a self-proclaimed eccentric redhead who not only loves to read a wide variety of romances, but also loves writing it. Under her alter-ego, she is a well known book reviewer and blogger who doesn’t shy away from voicing her opinion. A proud native of New Jersey, KT is multi-published and known for writing “out of the box” romances. KT has been quoted in such publications as the Romance Writers of America’s Romance Writers Report and Night Owl Reviews. She has also been mentioned in the Guardian.UK,  Publisher’s Weekly’s Beyond the Book and at Bookseller.com. KT is a top ten best-selling PAN (Romance Writers of America Published Authors Network) author at Amazon, as well as being a multiple All Romance Ebooks best seller and a Night Owl Reviews Top Author Pick.

She seems rather placid, considering the state of her breasts: Don’t forget to click for a much larger view. Provenance unknown, but I see stylistic similaritiesto this image. See Also:Breast WhippingWhipped…And Shoveling Snow, NakedWhipping Post ArtworkWelts, And A Martinet

Have you had had the same hairstyle for the past five years? Check out some examples of how you can make exciting new changes in your life!

These photos of David Wraith were taken about five years apart:

As you can see, he made the choice to go from ordinary, to extraordinary. It was a lifestyle change.

This pic of me:

was taken about five hours before this one:

WOW what a huge difference!

Ever since I shaved my head in May, I've enjoyed experimenting with many different looks. One day I'll be a bombshell. The next, I'll look like a mom. Or a boi. Or Chucky from Child's Play (that's what David Wraith said I looked like in my orange wig, stripey shirt and overalls costume.)

Today I'm sporting the hippie look on my way to a modeling gig, and then I will sit naked for three hours in front of a bunch of college students.. Tonight for the girl pile, I'll be in bombshell mode with thigh high stockings. Or maybe I'll go wigless - take it from me, doing an orgy in a wig is distracting - I'm always worried that it's shifting and looks silly.

Rachel W Cole mused on twitter the other day, "Wondering what percentage of women you know actually love their body?"

I replied, "I know plenty of women who celebrate their bodies! Our bodies are vehicles for pleasure! Not gonna let a poochy tummy or stretch marks slow us down!"

It's so easy for me to change my outward appearance. I know my inner beauty will shine through, no matter how dorky I look. I realize my body is temporary and subject to change. I'm happy to go with the flow.

If an extreme makeover is too much for you, then consider making a small change and see how it feels.

For instance, a jerk I was dating six years ago who was really into tattoos and piercings talked me into getting my ears pierced. He dumped me two months later, but for six years now, I've had the same small, dull silver hoops in my ears.

Then last month I had to take them out for an MRI I did to see if I was eligible for a metabolism study (I wasn't; at 39% body fat, I wasn't lean enough), and in the process, lost one of the earrings.

So then I was walking around like a sad pirate with one hoop. I had one earring to my name.

SO I went shopping with a girlfriend and found some incredibly sparkly, irridescent studs for only $17. I think they are magical.

I wish I would have replaced those dull hoops long ago. They carried some bad memories with them.

I love my sparkle ears!

 

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Copyright 2011, The Beautiful Kind

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Did you ever play Doctor as a kid? Do you think nurses are sexy? Do you like being taken care of? Read on!

Tomorrow night we’re hosting a girl pile party that will feature a charge nurse and a thorough oral examination. In anticipation, I asked my friend Nurse Laural of Twisted Clinic a few questions about the intriguing world of medical fetish. Time to open up and say “Ahh!”

It can be rare to find a partner who has as much enthusiasm for an unconventional fetish. How did you meet your husband, Doc Sebastian?

Meeting someone who shares your similar fetishes and passions is actually not at all rare, as long as you frequent BDSM and fetish events, parties and educational or business seminars. That is how we met!

We frequented the same local community events and parties, met… and well, the rest is part of our 14 year history! It was very early in our relationship, that we discovered our mutual affinity to medical fetish (our Mothers were in medical professions, too, maybe that started it all?!).

What is rare, is staying together. If a couple can still carry on together through the basic daily routines of life, work and family, while maintaining an extremely unique and kinky fantasy relationship, it is likely they will build a lasting life together.

However, that being so simply stated, we hear over and over again from our customers the disappointment they have finding another person who likes medical fetish as much as they do. So here’s a big hint to find your medical fetish mate at the next BDSM gathering you attend… where something medical related! Be it as simple as a stethoscope around your neck, or a lab coat. You will draw medical fetishists like magnets, as well as the many “medical- curious” out there!

So did you play doctor as a kid? What’s your first sexy medical memory?

Having parents in the medical profession really opened the door, for certain! Mom bringing home all sorts of medical gadgets and supplies [disclaimer: not sure where, why or how these items were procured!] made it so easy to play doctor or nurse with others in the neighborhood.

That was probably my first sexy medical memory: Having little Joey lower his pants so I could check his “wee-wee” [yes, that's what I called it when I was 7]. I can still remember how proud he was of it and I just laughed. (Domme traits start early, too)

In Sebastian’s case, his mother was an ER nurse, so he would ride his bike to the hospital where she worked to watch the “excitement” of trauma care. All of the blood, guts and gore did not deter his curiosity, quite the opposite, actually!. At those young ages, it was that “excitement” which eventually evolved into the adult “fetish” for all things medical.

Do real medical professionals have this fetish, or is it mostly laypeople who enjoy medical play?

It’s hard to give exact equations, but there are many, many medical professionals who enjoy medical fetish. Interestingly, a large portion are dentists, as well as therapists. Perhaps, from a psychological aspect, it provides them with a pleasurable fantasy escape which balances the mechanized, repetitive realities of their daily occupation.

What are the most popular items for people with medical fetish? (Latex, speculum, metal tools?)

We get asked this question everyday, and the answer is quite simple: it depends! What we have come to realize over the years, is that everyone has their own, individual passion for medical fetish.

For example, the bondage enthusiast is bonkers for our straitjackets, but could care less about an anal speculum. Another example is the enema lover drooling over the five quart enema bag, yet cringes over the idea of being wrapped up like a mummy in mummification. The latex aficionado adores the smells and touch of silky rubber on their skin, but can’t imagine having a catheter (made partially of latex) shoved into their urethra! And that is how this whole world spins… to each his own.

What is the allure of pussy pumping, cupping and other skin suction play?

Pussy pumping, penis pumping, nipple pumping, clitoris pumping are all desireable for two reasons: one, the sensations caused during the suction process can be so intense, that many cannot withstand it, yet that is it’s ultimate draw to the BDSM fetishist. And, two, repeated use and maintenance can produce increased size and enhanced shapes of the genitals and nipples. Camel Toes, for example, are usually “created”, not a natural phenomena, by a pumping protocol, using a specified size pussy/labia cup and a vacuum pump.

On your site you discuss sounding, saying it provides “exceptional sensual stimulation.” Why would anyone want to stick a steel rod up their peehole?

Well, you would be amazed… it’s obvious a woman is asking this question… men already know the answer. As a matter of fact, quite a few years ago, we had a rather mature gentleman inform us that he was so happy that he found us, after all the years he had been swiping his wife’s crochet needles, while she “getting really mad at me for it”. Yes, we most likely saved this man from doing permanent damage by shoving a crochet needle a bit too far into his “peehole”! Let’s put it this way, ever since man first discovered his peehole, man has tried to shove something in it. However, there are those that abhor the idea, but think nothing of pushing their envelope with breath play and sensory deprivation.

Your website has such a positive, playful tone to it - do you think it could be used to help people who have medical phobias?

Absolutely, and it has! We truly believe the adage: Laughter is the best medicine. There have been countless phone calls of gratitude that we present the humorous, yet healthy approach to the world of medicine. We hear comments about how a doctor’s office visit was much more enjoyable after visiting our website. A few have even told us that they could now identify most of the objects in the examination room and what they are used for, whereas before, they just considered them strange, scary gadgets and instruments.

Colostomies, bloodletting, chemo, broken bones - what’s one of the most unusual requests you’ve received?

It would, hands down (pun intended), be the broken bones scenario. We have so many “cast” aficionados. These are medical fetishists who actually encase in a plaster or fiberglass cast. Some will do just a leg or an arm and go out in public, while others do full body casts (needless to say you won’t see them out at the grocery store). So the next time you see someone in a large, almost oversized cast on their leg, hopping about, yet not looking like they are in distress, they just may be a cast medical fetishist, getting their rocks off!

What do you think of the modern day nurse uniform (cartoon character scrubs and crocs)? In general, are people more attracted to an old-fashioned take on the medical scene?

This is an ongoing discussion. In an interview by New Yorker magazine, I was asked my opinion about “dress whites” vs. scrubs. The reply is still the same for me, and most medical fetishists (and even non-fetishists!) that a medical professional attending to your health is much more identifiable as such, be it a nurse, doctor, attending or intern, if they are dressed in a more formal uniform attire.

The scrubs were originally designed for use only in the operating room, so that they could be, literally, thrown away after a surgery. Blood splattered and bacteria ridden, that was the protocol for scrubs (even their name defines their use).

However, when the nursing community finally allowed pants to be worn (up until about the late ’60’s, nurses were only allowed to wear dresses), the next step came the wearing of scrubs. The erosion of the more formal uniforms also came at the price of price! It was far less expensive to keep the entire staff in scrubs, rather than committing to a hierarchy of uniforms based on professional status.

By the way, this is primarily happening only here in USA. The rest of the world’s hospitals still have nurses in white (they can wear pant sets) and doctors in formal lab coats or jackets, etc. Yes, we miss the formal whites… if not for aesthetics, just so I know it is a doctor who just asked me to pull down my pants and bend over, not the student, working after school, picking up the laundry!

What do you think of the movie One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest?

Wow! One of our absolute favorites. Dominant Nurse, submissive patients (albeit they really had no “consensual” choice in that matter, did they?) and the one or two unruly “bad boys” who can really shake things up at the institution! Loved it!! There is, of course, a very sad reality that is represented so well. And the book is even more compelling and telling.

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Copyright 2011, The Beautiful Kind

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